How to grow personality: guide, but not manipulate

Proposal Information

Sooner or later, many parents face such a problem when their child is “out of control”. If we reject an absolutely literal understanding, we can quickly come to the conclusion that the child should not be a controlled one. Bringing up a child is not an animal training. Children do not have to fulfill all the instructions of their parents unconditionally and thoughtlessly. So this campaign aims to exemplify a proposal of how to grow a personality without applying heavy methods. We are going to get a view of some education theories about youth development in order to have a profound basis for our research. It is the theory of cognitive development by Jean Piaget, the theory of social development by John Boulbi and the psychoanalytic theory of Eric Erikson.

In this paper, I would like to concentrate on the children at the age of 4-5. This campaign is relevant exactly for this group because this age group has a lot of problematical issues in order to choose a good developmental strategy. We would like to propose a parent consulting group in order to help parents to be aware of the most effective practices in child development.

As I am a future youth worker, this campaign is directly relevant to my profession, because I need to be good at theoretical knowledge including the theories of child development as well as to lead a successful youth development campaign as a practical result of my work. The final aim is to improve the child upbringing process in general and work out a concrete plan of action, which I would like to present in the patterns below. Our team is in need to implement this campaign in order to develop our skills as a specialist in the field of youth development as well as to help problematic families to raise children wisely.

Then we are going to talk about the other methods of child development and the general process of raising children. Child development from birth to adulthood was largely ignored for most of history.

Campaign Purpose

Numerous theories of child development have been proposed by psychologists, including cognitive, psychoanalytic and behavioral theories. Firstly, I would like to go into detail and to present the chosen education theories about child development, because they let us understand the historical, biological, environmental, and cultural influences that have impacted our campaign topic throughout the last 2 decades.

In this passage, I would like to present the theory of cognitive development. Theorist Jean Piaget believed that children think differently than adults. He also suggested at this stage the theory of cognitive development. He was the first who pointed out that children play an active role in understanding the world (Keane, 2010). According to his theory, children can be thought of as “little scientists” who are actively building their knowledge and understanding of the world. He was also a founder of the epistemological view that was together with the theory of cognitive development called “genetic epistemology”.

The next theory we are going to talk about is the theory of social development. A lot of researches exists in this field. One of the most popular and effective belongs to John Boulbi. He offered one of the earliest theories of social development. Boulbi believed that early relationships with caregivers play an important role in the development of a child and continue to influence social relationships throughout life.

The group of psychoanalytic theories cannot be ignored as well. As the representative of this group, we can pay attention to such a scientist as Erikson Erik. This theorist also proposed a theory of stages of development (Paper, 1999), but it covers the theory of human growth throughout life. Erikson believed that every stage of development was aimed at overcoming the conflict. For example, the main conflict in adolescence involves creating a sense of themselves as individuals. Success or failure in resolving conflicts at each stage can affect the overall functioning. During the stage of adolescence, for example, failures in personal development lead to a significant confusion of the roles. So the social environment and harmony with it are of crucial importance for youth development at the early stage, in our case 4-5 years.

In this way, we can summarize all the theories that were presented in order to conclude a clear purpose of the campaign. We aim to combine as many as possible successful methods from these theories. The final aim is to develop an effective strategy for full youth development. The most important thing is to grow a personality, a fully integrated and healthy person. That we are going to do with the help of some methodology and interactive activities, which will be presented in the next part of our research.

Campaign Overview

In this part of the paper, I would like to present briefly some key points of our campaign as well as to explain why this campaign needs to be implemented and what possible consequences there may be if the topic is not addressed. We are going to use the new methods including psychological activities without pressure and manipulation to develop children. To spread these ideas further, our campaign aims to organize a consulting group for parents to teach them. If you do not want your child to grow dependent, with the lack of initiative, and with the inability to make decisions and take responsibility for their actions, then you should as soon as possible, once and for all eliminate such explanations as “Because I said so (a)”, “because I Said So”, “I’m an adult (the first), I know better”, etc (Berk, 2005). If the child does not initially receive from you exhaustive answers to all the questions, it will have to look for them in other places, so parental authority is greatly reduced in the eyes of the child, as well as the level of trust between them.

A popular theory of free education calls for respect for the child’s personality from birth and nurture it without coercion and humiliation, to minimize the punishment. Other popular books and writings of psychologists give a set of recommendations on how parents manage without violence and shouting in the upbringing of the child, how not to harm the child’s mind with punishing offense and how not to humiliate him as a person.

Implementation Plan

Finally, in this passage, we are going to discuss the environments where this campaign will be implemented to nurture the physical, socio-emotional and cognitive growth of the children. Education is a purposeful controlled process of identity formation. So do not treat it simply as the child’s education “team”: it is possible, it is impossible. If you want your child to be grown a harmonious, self-sufficient, confident person, it is necessary to explain why “yes”, and why “no”. In addition, as children get older, it is important for them to expand the boundaries of their own choice. You have to put up with it for error. Your role is about explaining to the child and suggesting the ways out, as he has to solve a problem himself. All the bans should be strictly motivated. The long-term implications of the campaign will bring us a lot of positive results. According to some scientific evidence (Robert, 2011), fewer children will be enrolled in crime in the future when they receive a good education from their parents. Our campaign aims to have global results and the success we can measure using similar statistics from children’s crime rates and children’s psychological disorders. The main task for parents who want to raise a child as fully independent personality is the preservation of peace and adequacy, as well as the development of a common scenario and behaviors, a single system of prohibitions and regulations and following them without any deviations. The lack of stability is often the cause of problems with children. It happens when the mother gives permission to one thing that the father does not allow. When a child has an example of people stable in their decisions and able to argue their position clearly, it will bring to the child’s consciousness certainty that he is able to do this as well.